How to Pull Off a Musical Proposal for the Non-Musically Talented
by Jane Smith
The proposal of marriage can be one of the most important events in the lifetime of a couple. It can also be one of those things that gets planned in a hurry if planned at all, simply because of the anxiety it causes in the proposer – usually the man in a male female relationship.
As a culture we treasure the proposal as a dramatic moment – the dropping down on one knee, the earnest words, the silence waiting for the hopefully positive reply, the celebration after all is said and done. Unfortunately, because it is an occasion for drama and has the potential for disappointment, it becomes an anxious time when it should be a joyful and memorable occasion. One of the many ways to accomplish the job of proposing and making it a success is through the use of music.
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For non-musicians only
Using music to frame the proposal event, or even to make the proposal itself, is a great way to do it, especially for a person who can’t sing or play himself. If you happen to be gifted with the talent and skill to play and sing a self-composed song as a proposal to your lover, more power to you, and you already know how to proceed. But if, like most of us, you can’t carry a tune in a bag and you don’t know one end of a guitar from the other, you’ll need help pulling this method off.
Start with the music
The most important thing to do at the beginning is to think carefully about the music. You may have a song in mind that started you on this method in the first place, your lover’s favorite tune, “your song” as a couple, or a piece of music if you have tastes outside of the standard pop-rock-country areas. You might also think about songs that actually carry a marriage proposal as part of the lyric in some way, and use it as a starter for your verbal proposal. If you do an Internet search on songs for proposing marriage, you’ll get a good-sized list of possibilities to choose from – something that strikes a personal chord is bound to show up.
Decide on the musical method
Here’s where your creativity and experience come in and make this a wonderful proposal method. Once you’ve decided on the music you will employ to set the stage for the proposal, think about how to do it. If the two of you have a favorite local band, duo or solo musician that you enjoy hearing together, consider asking for a favor. Musicians as a rule love to have a little break from the routine, and might be willing to play a part in your drama by providing the music in a live setting.
Another option is a karaoke situation in which you find an accomplice who can sing the song along with a pre-recorded background at your favorite karaoke nightspot. Then you take the stage and pop the question – after setting all of this up with the person mcing the karaoke, of course. And DJs at clubs are similarly usually amenable to playing a role by playing the song you have requested and giving you a helping hand in the proposal.
Pop the question musically
Once you have the music, the venue, and the method of making the music planned, you are pretty much home free. Of course you’ll have to be prepared with a speech, and a ring, and some accomplices to make sure that the whole thing goes according to plan, but those are the easy parts. Your lover will be thrilled and impressed that you were able to make your proposal such a memorable and loving occasion, and you’ll both have a memory to cherish for the rest of your lives.
